I am solidly in midlife. At 52, I’m beginning to understand the gifts that come with being on this earth for more than half a century. I want to share this gift with my sisters.
Some of you are older and wiser than me, having already experienced this time of self-reflection and inner growth. To you, I say “thank you.” Thank for your guidance. Thank you for being an example of what my life can be. Thank you for the grace to allow me to find my own path and experience my own struggles without condemnation. Thank you for loving me exactly where I am and who I am on my journey.
Some of you are younger and are concerned about what the future holds for you. To you I say, “come on in, the water is fabulous!” Don’t worry about getting older. Your beauty will be more radiant. Your gifts will be more abundant. Your life more amazing than you could have ever imagined.
The secret is really, really learning to love yourself now and loving yourself into the woman you want to be in the future. The gift of midlife is that you get to create your future self. You are the sculptor and the sculpture at the same time. You, not society, get to define you.
Society does not exactly know how to define a woman in midlife. Her fertility is coming to an end. It is no longer necessary for society to control a woman’s body or her actions during midlife. There is no such thing as a “good girl or a bad girl” in middle age. You are a fully-grown woman and you get to define yourself for you. You define who you are, what your purpose is, what relationships you will form and how you will experience and express yourself sexuality.
Learning to express yourself sexuality may look like exploring your body or looking at your vulva for the first time. Maybe it’s trying new sex toys. Maybe you have always known you are on the queer spectrum and want to explore your sexual orientation further. Maybe you are interested in kink, BDSM or non-monogamy. Whatever you would like to explore, this is your time!
Congratulations on being in midlife!
This is your life. You get to create all aspects of your life including your amazing sex life! Go forth and explore.
If you want any assistance navigating this wonderful midlife journey, I am always here to help. Just email me.
Dr. Sonia
Certified Life Coach, Trained Sexual counselor, and Medical Doctor.
