Ep #139: Soul Bursting, Creating Your Best Life and The Lit Clit Club

You are listening to The Midlife Sex Coach for Women™ Podcast episode 139.

Welcome to The Midlife Sex Coach for Women™ Podcast, the only show that combines a fun personality, medical knowledge, sexual counseling, and life coaching together. To create unique sex coaching that helps busy women awaken their libidos, address intimacy issues, and learn how to express their sexuality for the rest of their days. Here is your host, certified life coach and sexual counselor, Dr. Sonia Wright.

Hello, hello, hello, Diamonds, it’s so good to be back. It’s so good to talk to you. So it’s just you and me and early in the morning. And I’m so excited because my team and I have been working on an amazing project for the last four months. You all know about my coaching program, the coaching training program, Advanced Certification in Women’s Sexual Intimacy I also call ACWSI. But what you don’t know is that we’ve also been working on a special project since January for all of my Diamonds, not just my coaches.

You’ve all been asking for a monthly membership program for years. Well, the time has come. And I’ll be making a special announcement at the end of this podcast on how we can all work together and that would start on June 1^st. I’m so excited and it’s not going to cost thousands of dollars like my Own Your Sexuality Intimate course. This is going to be different and this is going to be fabulous. I am so excited I cannot tell you. And it’s not just going to be me. You’re going to be able to work with my whole team of amazing coaches.

So stay to the end of this podcast. And you’re not going to want to miss this announcement. But in the meantime enjoy today’s podcast. Okay, Diamonds, today’s podcast is something dear to my heart as well. I was talking to my team yesterday and we were all having our weekly team meeting and we were talking about the mission of our team, to inspire women to lead the life of their dreams inside and outside of the bedroom. We were talking really about empowerment. And we got on the topic of creating the dream life outside of the bedroom.

Many of you know that over the years I’ve come to realize that the work I do not only makes a difference in women’s sex lives but in their overall lives. I’ve seen women advocate for themselves and figure out what they need to be able to have an incredible sex life with themselves or with their partners. But I’ve also seen my Diamonds learn and utilize the skills, the coaching skills that they have learned. And then they apply it not only in the bedroom but outside of the bedroom to create their best lives.

I’ve seen women go on to leave jobs that were no longer serving them and to get new jobs. I have seen them move across the country and fulfill their dreams. I have seen women enhance their relationships like never before and also not only their relationships with their partners but the relationship with their family members, their kids, with neighbors, with friends, with so many different people. I see women creating connections within my groups that flourish outside of the groups.

So I’ve really come to see that my mission is not just about impacting women’s sex lives, it’s about impacting their overall lives and helping them figure out what their dream life is. And I’ve been with them every step of the way, coaching them as they take their steps to create this life that they want. This process, it’s really so amazing and it’s such an honor to be a coach, a life coach, a sex coach. It’s such an amazing process to see my Diamonds changing their lives.

Now, make no mistake, I help but it’s the Diamonds that make the difference for themselves. They’re the ones that make the choices and change their thoughts and then take the action so that they get a different result. And I am celebrating them. It’s so amazing to see their lives so full of joy, it really is. It’s so amazing to see the dream that’s in their spirit kind of burst out and fill their lives. It’s a dream that’s achieved not only in their heads but through their spirit, through their hearts, from their soul.

And while my team was continuing to talk, we decided we were really describing something we call a soul burst. Yeah, don’t you like that? That’s really amazing, a soul burst. 100%, our Diamonds are experiencing soul bursts. So what the heck is a soul burst? It’s like an orgasm of the soul. A soul burst is when you let your dreams out and then you go about achieving them and your heart is so full of joy that your soul bursts, your soul sings.

When you have so much love and gratitude and excitement, you’re just happy with life and it just bursts out of you. It affects other people around you. You want this happiness to really engulf your life and then it engulfs the lives of the people around you and it positively impacts the world. And so my team and I were like, “Yes, oh my goodness, a soul burst, yes. This is what we’re trying to create in our Diamonds lives.” We just got so excited with this concept of a soul burst.

So over the next month of May I’m going to be talking more about soul bursting. And I also want to introduce you to each member of my amazing coaching team. And we will be discussing how we coach our clients, how we coach them to their soul burst. Each one of my team members has a different set of coaching skills and also a different definition of what soul bursting means to them. And you’re going to love meeting them. Some of them you already know, like Dr. Kimmery. She handles the relationship and the trauma coaching in my groups.

And you also know Master Coach, Lisa Hadlestad. She handles the sex coaching in my groups and also the embodiment and body images. And she led us on an amazing embodiment exercise the other day in ACWSI. And I can’t even describe it. It just, it settled us in. We just felt so good and we were in touch with our soul, in touch with our body and I just can’t wait to introduce you to the work that she does and the work that’s going to be available in this project that we’re working on.

And some of you know Donna Jennings, she’s our little spitfire. She and I have this special relationship. She says that I’m her sister from another mister. But she’s just amazing. She’s also a fabulous sex coach and she also loves to focus on the journey to your authentic self. That’s her area of wisdom, of treasure, that is her area.

And then also I have Gretchen Hernandez and she’s my LGBTQ+ coach. And she’s also the entrepreneur coach. So I wrap up this team as the master sex coach, as the toy expert and as the dream chaser. I’m also the visionary and it’s kind of fun when we all get together in a room because we kind of embody the different parts of the spirit and the mind and we come together as one. So it’s fun to have us there. I love my team. And we’re all committed to our Diamonds. And we’re all committed to your soul bursting.

So let’s look at soul bursting and what it might look like to you. What path might you take in order to get to your soul bursting? And what does it mean to do soul bursting in midlife? I think that midlife is the best time to do the soul bursting. By midlife you’re down to only a few last fucks so you get to use them wisely. You get to choose. You get to decide what matters to you now. What matters to you? What would you like to spend your last few fucks on? By the time you get to your late 60s and 70s you have no more fucks left to give.

You’re just like, “I’m so done with this. I’m totally 100% doing what I want to and how I want to do it.” When you’re in your midlife, you’ve got a couple of fucks left, things that you really care about that want to put your energy towards, so spend them wisely. Don’t spend them on family members that are driving you crazy. Release that, release them, allow them to be themselves and allow them to do what they’re going to do because they’re going to do it anyway. Is that where you want to spend your last fuck?

Do you want to spend your last fuck on a job that you don’t necessarily like? Is that where you want to spend your energy? Why don’t you spend your last fuck on creating your soul bursting life, how about that? Because after this phase, after this phase of midlife you’re going to be focusing on your legacy. Midlife is a time for you. So let’s do your soul bursting now. I mentioned before what soul bursting means to me. It means when you’re living in the present moment and you’re experiencing the wow, that is so great.

It’s like a wave of emotion that’s coming through your body, through your mind, through your spirit because you’re in alignment. You’re in alignment with your higher power if you believe in a higher power. You can think of it, you’re in alignment with your purpose if that’s how you’d like to think about it. For example right now I’m in the soul bursting mode because I have been running the Advanced Certification in Women’s Sexual Intimacy that I also call ACWSI. And we are a month into this program and it’s just amazing.

The coaches that are training on women’s sexual intimacy, I can’t say enough about them. They’re really amazing. And the work that they’re doing is phenomenal. And when I’m leading a session or planning out the next module, I’m in a place of gratitude. I’m in an alignment. I’m in excitement, enthusiasm. I’m inspired. My soul is literally bursting. This is the work that I’m meant to do in this world. I’m meant to do sex coaching and I’m also meant to do life coaching. I love helping people achieve their dreams.

I have spent the last four years helping people achieve their dreams in the bedroom. And an amazing side product of that is that they are creating their dreams outside of the bedroom. And this to me is amazing because I love being a master sex coach but I’m also a Master Certified Life Coach. And both of those things are important to me when I’m working with my clients. So it’s not just life in the bedroom is great, but life outside the bedroom sucks. No, we’re going to focus on all those things.

I love working with my Diamonds because I like to see things from both the perspective of a sex coach and of a life coach. A woman’s sex life often reflects what’s going on in her overall life. If she’s not standing up for herself and asking for what she wants and needs in the bedroom, she’s often not standing up for herself and asking for what she wants and needs in her life in general. I love working with my Diamonds to change that. I adore the work that I do as a life coach and as a sex coach.

And I want to do that forever. I’m in alignment with my purpose on this Earth. And I’m just getting started. I’m 100% in alignment with my dreams and my purpose. That’s what my soul bursting looks like. What does soul bursting look like to you? What does it look like in your life? What does it look like for you to be in alignment? What’s your purpose? What is your reason for waking up in the morning? Why do you think you were put on this Earth? What makes your soul burst?

You don’t want to wake up one day and realize that you’ve given up on your dreams, your dreams of sexual intimacy but also your life dreams, your soul bursting dreams. Midlife is the time to remember that your dreams are important and you get to create them, you get to create new ones. Your kids are growing up, you’ve mastered your job, you’re kind of in a groove. You’re in this place, the time is now.

There’s something that’s probably calling you inside asking to be created, it might be subtle at the beginning but it’s there. And if you’re resisting it, ask yourself why you’re resisting, kind of look at it. Often I find that we’ve done so much work to get to this point in our life, we kind of feel like that stage is over with. We shouldn’t have to reinvent ourself. We shouldn’t have to struggle. We shouldn’t have to uplevel and get to a new level but that’s what life is about.

And this calling from your soul, your spirit, is just going to get louder in midlife because if you’re in midlife then you’re going to be shifting out of it at some point and into that wise crone. That part of the life where we’re thinking about contributing to society, greater society and creating your legend. But right now while we’re in midlife it’s about creating your personal legend like they say in The Alchemist, the book The Alchemist. This is about creating your personal legend.

So I ask you again, what would make your spirit just explode if you accomplished it? What would make your soul burst out in song and happiness? This is my question for you. So, Diamonds, join us over the next couple of weeks in May and into the beginning of June when we’re going to be talking about soul bursting. And I’m going to be talking to each member of my team so you get to know them, so you get a different perspective on soul bursting.

We talked a little bit about my perspective. But we’re going to be talking to more team members so that you know what their perspective is. And I’m going to be shifting gears now. So I’m going to say, have an amazing week. I’m going to talk to you next week and stay tuned for my amazing announcement about our newest project, The Lit Clit Club.

                                                                                                                   

Hey, Diamonds, everyone needs a magnificent obsession, besides my children and my family, my magnificent obsession is my newest project, drum roll. It’s an online membership that I’m creating. And this online membership is called The Lit Clit Club. Yes. It is called The Lit Clit Club and sometimes when I’m on social media, I may be just calling it The Lit Lit Club so that my account doesn’t get shut down. But in either case, I am so excited.

You all know that I am on a mission to positively impact the lives of 100 million women across the world and impact their lives positively inside and outside the bedroom. This is my big audacious goal and it’s what I’ve wanted to spend the rest of my life working on, really this is the thing. Women need to be comfortable with their sexuality. They need to be able to define it for themselves, to take ownership of it. It’s good for you, it’s good for your relationships inside and outside the bedroom.

But what I’m really talking about is empowerment and living a self-defined life, autonomy. We get to give ourselves permission. We get to have pleasure and orgasms inside the bedroom by articulating our wants and experimenting till we find out what works for us. And outside the bedroom we get to have joy, we get to have soul bursts. We get to figure out what our personal legend is. And we get to redefine our goals and create our best life over time.

Women need to understand that they can have a prosperous pleasure filled life and they don’t have to earn this pleasure, it’s your birthright. You don’t have to be worthy enough or good enough or good enough for joy. This is not an exchange system. We don’t have to people please and make sure that everybody else is happy in order to justify our existence. We are innately worthy and entitled to pleasure and prosperity in all aspects of our lives right now, right now. We accept this concept right now.

And based upon this fundamental belief we build our best life. And this is where The Lit Clit Club comes in. So what exactly is The Lit Clit Club? Let me tell you, it’s a safe place where women can come to create the lives that they want. It’s a place where women can talk openly about their sexual concerns and be heard. They don’t have to be afraid of judgment or reprimand. It’s a place where you can get the coaching that you need. It’s a place of freedom and knowledge.

So you get to ask all the questions you ever wanted to ask about sex. You get to dream big and create your life, your amazing, magnificent life, your way. So come to The Lit Clit Club for the sexual intimacy coaching and information and stay for the empowerment and the freedom. If you’ve got questions on libido, menopause, sexual health, relationships, sexual orientation, pleasure equality and orgasms, religion and intimacy, toys, BDSM, non-monogamy, self-love, healing from trauma, embodiment and positive body image.

If you want to create the life of your dreams, if you want a journey to your authentic self, if you want to stop people pleasing this is all here in The Lit Clit Club. We have the answers and we have the coaching just for you. We also have monthly guest experts. You request the topics that you want our guest experts and we go and find the guest experts for you. So why don’t you join The Lit Clit Club and rewrite your sexual history, rewrite your sexual story. Heck, rework your entire life and make it exactly what you want.

There’s a new ooh. And then there’s also the new you. I love this. And you know what? Hey, let’s talk about the money side of things. I believe in talking and being upright about it. So you’re going to get all of this for $97 a month. Where else can you get this knowledge and coaching on sexual intimacy and dream life creation all for under $100 a month? This is what my Diamonds have been asking for. They have been asking for when I’m going to create an online coaching membership and the time is now.

And did I mention that we’re going to have a Queens Club for women that are over 50? Which specifically is going to discuss sexual intimacy and the post-menopausal years. This is something that we need to discuss. My Diamonds are going to be sexually intimate with themselves and with their partners if they choose well into their 90s or 100. So it starts now. We’re also going to be talking about your personal legend and how to create that, how to go find your authentic self and how to make that life of your dreams inside and outside the bedroom.

And did I also mention that the month of May is the founding members month? Now, The Lit Clit Club officially starts on July 1^st, but for my founding members I have some special things for you. And this is because you have been loyal, you have been there for me. And so this is only available for people that listen to my podcast and for people that are on my email list. So The Lit Clit Club as I mentioned before, it’s regularly $97 a month. And that is an amazing steal.

But if you’re a founding member and you will be because I want you with me, we have work to do. It’s time, the time has come. So as a founding member you’re going to get access to The Lit Clit Club a month early. It officially starts on July 1^st, but for you it’s going to start on June 1^st. So founding members get that bonus month of coaching in June. While we’re putting it all together we are here specifically for you. We want to hear what you have to tell us. And we are going to be doing this coaching. We are so excited about this.

You get to say what you want your membership to be like. And we’re making sure that this is for you because we are offering it at $67 a month as long as you maintain continuous monthly membership. So if you’re a founding member, instead of the $97 a month for The Lit Clit Club, if you join in the month of May and we start with the founding members on June 1^st, if you join in the month of May The Lit Clit Club is $67 a month and it continues to be that amount as long as you have continuous monthly membership.

When I thought of The Lit Clit Club and what I want to do for my Diamonds, I just wanted to go all out and make sure that you all can afford it and you can all be there. But even better than that, we’re offering a year-long membership in The Lit Clit Club for the founding members for $670. This is for 12 months. It’s actually 13 because you get that extra month. So if you are a founding member and you know you want to stay in The Lit Clit Club for a year and who wouldn’t, then we’re offering it for $670 which is about $55 a month. And that is as good as it gets.

After that, after July 1^st, it’s going to be $970 for the entire year if you want to do a year-long membership. But because you’re my founding member and you start in May that is going to be yours for $670. So I just keep thinking what else, what else can I offer. And it really doesn’t get better than that. It’s the lowest price it’s ever going to be. And it’s only offered in the month of May of 2023. And it’s also only available to people on my email list and Diamonds that are listening to my podcast that sign up for my email list.

I want to make sure that my loyal Diamonds have access first. Many of you have been asking for membership for years and I’m listening, my team is listening. And we are rolling this out for you. I want you to know that we’re hearing you and this is our way of saying thank you, thank you to all my Diamonds that have been there with me over the last four years as I’ve created my business, as I’ve done the sex coaching, as I’ve grown it. And now as I’m creating The Lit Clit Club.

So all you have to do is click on the link below in the show notes to sign up for my email list, that’s the easiest way. If you’re on my email list you will get the information about the founding membership and you’re going to be able to sign up in the month of May. We start June 1^st, and I can’t wait. I can’t wait to be there with the founding members.

And did I mention also that founding members going forward will have an extra coaching call with me that’s only for you every month? Alright, Diamonds, so good talking to you. I am so excited about The Lit Clit Club. So click on the link in the show notes, make sure you’re on my email list and we’re going to do this. We’re going to have an amazing time together. I’m committed to you. I’m committed to your lives, and making the difference and my team is committed. Alright, Diamonds, love you so much. Dr. Sonia out.

Hello, hello, hello again, Diamonds, it’s Dr. Sonia. I have some questions for you. Do you feel like you’re missing out on passionate intimacy and amazing pleasure even though it looks like your life is pretty good from the outside? Or maybe you feel like sex is an obligation, a duty, something that’s on your to-do list right after taking out the trash. Perhaps you would love to get rid of the story that’s on replay in your mind that sex is shameful.

Maybe you just want to know all about the toys or maybe you want to want to want sex and intimacy again. Maybe you feel like your libido is dead or missing in action never to be found again. Well, Diamonds, Dr. Sonia and her team, we are here, we hear you. We know what’s going on in your lives and we want to make a difference. There’s a lot of things that are going on behind the scenes and that will be happening over the next few months with The Midlife Sex Coach for Women organization. I am so excited about this.

So make sure that you’re on our email list to get all the updates as soon as the information is available. So if you’re not on our email list, click on the link below and get on that list. And in the meantime you’ll get your free intimacy guide. It doesn’t get better than that. Okay, Diamonds, talk to you soon. Lots of love.