Ep #67: Being the Right-Hand Person in a Sex Coaching Business with Monaye Marcia

The Midlife Sex Coach for Women Podcast with Dr. Sonia Wright | Being the Right-Hand Person in a Sex Coaching Business with Monaye MarciaHappy Holidays! I’m so excited to introduce you to my next guest on the show. Coach Monaye helps me out in both the Own Your Sexuality Now! and Your Empowered Sexuality programs and has been working with me for the last two years. She was the behind-the-scenes person for a while but I realized she was so amazing that I just had to tap into her as a resource and put her in front of a camera as a coach.

Monaye Marcia is The Post-Traumatic Growth Coach and she helps women grow from trauma, reconnect with themselves and rebuild trust and safety so they can gain confidence and freedom to pursue their goals. She does incredible work and is here to share more of it.

Join us this week and hear the incredible work that Monaye does, both in my programs and her own coaching business. Monaye shares what she has learned and experienced over the last two years being the right-hand person in my sex coaching business, and some of the transformations she has seen my Diamonds experience over this time.

Diamonds, I love talking with you each week on the podcast, but I want to get to know you better and help you create that amazing sexual intimacy that you deserve. Enrollment opens this week for  Own Your Sexuality Now: The Intimate Edition so why not give yourself the gift of the connection, satisfaction, and pleasure you desire? You’ll be part of a small, safe, supportive environment with other women dealing with the same issues. We start mid-January, will you be joining us? Click here to sign up now.


What You’ll Learn from this Episode:
  • Why so often women don’t have the permission to think of themselves as sexual beings.
  • What the sexual Smörgåsbord is and how to use it to enhance your sexual intimacy.
  • How Monaye helps incarcerated women with changing their mindset and achieving success.
  • Why pleasure isn’t just about penetration.
  • The topic that Monaye has enjoyed teaching about the most.
  • Why much of sex and sexuality is in the context of the relationship with yourself as well as somebody else.
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You are listening to The Midlife Sex Coach for Women Podcast episode 67.

Welcome to The Midlife Sex Coach for Women™ Podcast, the only show that combines a fun personality, medical knowledge, sexual counseling, and life coaching together. To create unique sex coaching that helps busy women awaken their libidos, address intimacy issues, and learn how to express their sexuality for the rest of their days. Here is your host, certified life coach and sexual counselor, Dr. Sonia Wright.

Hello, Diamonds. I just want to wish you all a happy holidays. I hope you’re doing well and you’re enjoying the season. And I just want to thank you for the incredible gift that you have given me for being my Diamonds and allowing me to be there for you in whatever way I have been able to help you in terms of your sex and sexuality. And I just want to thank you and wish you all a happy holiday season. And I have a special podcast and I just want you to know that I’m thinking about you during this holiday season. Enjoy this podcast and I will be talking to you in the new year, take care.

Hello, hello, hello, Diamonds. I am so excited for my next guest. She is amazing. She is Coach Monaye and she helps me out in my Own Your Sexuality Now program and also in my Your Empowered Sexuality program. She has been working with me for the last two years. And she was a person behind the scenes and she does, still does a lot of the behind the scenes work in my groups. But she is so amazing that I could not tap into her as a resource and put her in front of the camera as well. So she also does coaching in my groups and she’s always been with me.

And it’s so funny because when she started, she was doing the behind-the-scenes kind of stuff. And she was like, “Oh, we’re talking about sex, a lot of sex, a lot of intimacy.” And I know she learned a lot. And so I thought it would be kind of fun to interview Monaye as to what she has experienced and learned over the last two years being the righthand person for a sex coaching business. And she has some firsthand insights as to what goes on behind the scenes but also what transformations the Diamonds have had.

And so I just wanted you to know this woman because she’s also an amazing coach. And at the end of our conversation, we’re going to talk more about the coaching that she does specifically in her own programs and her own private coaching that she does. But I just felt we needed to know more about Coach Monaye. So I am bringing her on and introducing her to all the Diamonds. And we’re going to have a discussion. So, Monaye, introduce yourself and then we’re going to talk.

Monaye: Okay everyone, I am Monaye Marcia, certified life and trauma coach. As Dr. Sonia said, I have had the pleasure of spending two full years in Own Your Sexuality Now and YES, and really getting to see the transformation of the Diamonds. And it has been a wild ride.

Sonia: Definitely. She’s seen it all from when we talk about low libido to sex toys, all the sex toys.

Monaye: Yeah, all the unboxings.

Sonia: All the unboxings. And we’ve had years of unboxings. We’ve had a lot of fun going on over the years. So tell me, what was your first thought when I was like, “Would you come and help me out with my Own Your Sexuality program?” What were you thinking when I was like, “We’re going to be talking about sex a lot and I need somebody that can help me and organize and do the behind-the-scenes work?”

Monaye: The fun part, everyone, is that I actually got to meet Dr. Sonia when we were given our life coach certification together. So I had already known this dynamic lady. And I was all in on the conversation. So I was like, “Of course, I love helping people discover that it’s okay.” I just never even thought about doing it as a program or being a sex coach. I was like, “She is bold, and brazen, and has an amazing personality, this is going to be good.” So when she needed some assistance I was like, “Right on, why would I not choose to show up in that space?”

And it was everything just from the beginning process of what does it look like, to put something out to the world, to seeing some launch stuff. And where the people start showing up and being on the Zoom calls, yeah.

Sonia: Yeah. And I love that process. You have seen multiple groups of Diamonds go through Own Your Sexuality Now, my 12-month program. And also YES, which was my 30 – is a 30-week program, so more than half a year program that I did as well. So between those two programs you’ve definitely seen a lot of transformations. What sticks in your mind in terms of some transformations or some things that you’ve seen with women that went through the program?

Monaye: I would say coming into it on the first, let’s say the first call or the first session. And it’s like, okay, we’re kind of interested. We don’t really have a whole bunch to say. We just want to keep it all nice, kind of flowery. Some really good engaging questions. And it kind of stays there. And then by the time the third session comes there’s some people that are like, “Oh, no, I really need this.” And so they’re asking for coaching more. They’re wanting to really dig into what they’ve experienced, how they want their lives to change. Just literally the reason why they signed up, now they’re all in.

And by the time it’s at the end of it, the 12 weeks, it’s a total different group of individuals. It’s a totally different group of women that are helping each other in the chat. They’re supporting each other, as much as you’re showing up in that space and I’m there. They literally support each other. They’re like, “Yes, this is good. And here’s an idea of what I did. And I came back around a second time because I wanted some more.”

It’s not like it’s a one and done which really filled my heart because it’s like there’s one level that they worked on and then they came back and was like, “I want to go deeper and I want to work on it some more.”

Sonia: That’s true. You bring a good point which is we have women that will come back through the program again because they like the program so much. And you’re right, when it’s the first day everybody’s like, “I’m not talking. I’m not saying a thing.” And they’re just sitting there. And then by – when we start doing the pleasure protocol where we’re doing your plan, so you can figure it all out. And you’re right, I love the whole transformation from where they’re like, “I’m not sure if this is going to work for me, if I’m going to be able to make a difference.”

And then you’re right, by the time we’re in the 10th, 11th, 12th call they’re like, “Look, I’ve been talking to my partner about this and this is what we’re doing now. And this is what we’re trying. And we tried a little bit of this. And did you try this lube? Because you’ve got to try this lube. Did you try that toy? After Dr. Sonia showed me that toy I went and bought that toy and I am telling you that that is a toy you need.” And these are women that never ever would buy a toy, right?

Monaye: Never.

Sonia: They were like, “I’m not sure if I could do this vibration type.” But they’re like, “It’s a vibrator.” They’re like, “Yeah, that. No, I don’t think I could do that.” And then by the end they’re like, “Well, I just bought that toy and I tried this one out. And clitoral stimulators, they’re okay but I tend to like this one.” And they know what they like. They know their body. And I love the different sessions that we do.

Monaye: Yes. That’s what I was going to say. I think it’s the more the unaware of the body, not having that of anyone empowering you to say look at your body, no one’s – it’s taboo to touch your body. It’s all of the things. And a lot of the, I would say, audience, based off of where they grew up, so whether it was their religion or just the day and time. We women were here to please someone else. We were not here for own self-pleasure and to enjoy this house, that it’s really made for us. So they learn so much. I mean can we talk about clitorises on here?

Sonia: Yeah, we talk about everything, yeah. You can’t have Dr. Sonia and not have her talk about a clitoris. That would be torture. I don’t even know if I could ever be like, “I’m done, I’m done podcasting.” We talk about it all, yes, anything you want to talk about, talk about.

Monaye: But that’s how it is on the sessions. That’s how it is. The first time the clitoris is brought up it’s like crickets in the chat for the new people. And then the next time they’re talking about it because now it’s like, “Oh. Okay, wait a minute, it only has one thing to do, [crosstalk]?”

Sonia: One function.

Monaye: Just an awareness.

Sonia: Just to make you happy.

Monaye: That education, just completely just don’t know. And it’s not a problem, that’s why they have you.

Sonia: Yeah. That’s why we do this. I love when we have the discussion about what exactly were you taught to call your vulva region and then your vagina. And there’s so many women that are like, “It was never named.” Or the purse. What are some of the names that people come up with?

Monaye: Yeah. It was a bubble, a purse, a pocketbook, a hideaway, a gem. And then of course, inexistant, it was called nothing.

Sonia: Yeah, we didn’t mention.

Monaye: And there’s very few, I probably could count maybe three times it was called a vulva.

Sonia: Yeah, yeah, exactly.

Monaye: Out of all these sessions, and when I was doing the take 2s it would be double the sessions that time. And literally three times I remember.

Sonia: That the three actually knew.

Monaye: Everybody else had, they had nicknames for it.

Sonia: Yes, they had nicknames for it and nobody has ever – we would be encouraging people to get a mirror and to look. And they’d be like, “What? No, I’m not allowed to look there.” And I’m like, “Yeah, actually you can, it’s part of your body.” And it’s encouraged in this course. We’re all going to spend some time this week looking. And when you tell them this and they’re like, “Oh, I’m not sure about that.” And then weeks later they’re like, “Oh yeah, I know where my clitoris is, my partner knows where my clitoris is. The world knows where my clitoris is now.” And there’s no going back.

And then they’re pissed off, they’re like, “Why is it that we didn’t know about this?”

Monaye: Yeah. It’s such a dynamic course to me because of that. And knowing so many women who just don’t know. And they’re still shy, and upright, and scared. And they’re going into their 50s and 60s. And not to say that there isn’t youth that is experiencing that. But definitely that generations that were older, that just wasn’t a conversation. They didn’t have it.

Sonia: It was not a conversation, yeah.

Monaye: And all these different communities and even if you go to the religious side, it’s everywhere, it’s not just one thing. And that’s what I tell people, “It’s not just about your religion. It’s across the gamut. It’s not a color thing. It’s not a race thing. It’s not an ethnic thing. It is everywhere.” And it’s so shocking to me because that could have been my story but I chose to learn younger. It wasn’t that I was taught it from my mom but I chose to explore and learn. And so then I was different than the rest of my peers and able to talk about it [crosstalk].

Sonia: Yeah. And that’s so good. If you’re the type of person that can go and say, “Okay, I’m going to figure this out. I’m going to learn and then I’m going to go from there. You’re impacting your life and your sexuality but you’re also impacting the sexuality of your children, of your nieces, people, young people. And that’s what I also love about doing the Own Your Sexuality work and the YES work is that once women learn this information then they’re like, “I need to tell my daughters. I need to tell my nieces. I need to tell so and so.”

And they’ll be like, “Wait, I went over that recording and I listened to it again with my partner, or with my niece, or with my daughter.” And to know that we’re having an impact in that way, not just with the women in the course but the women’s nieces, and cousins, and whoever they live with and stuff like that.

Monaye: [Crosstalk] generational change.

Sonia: Generational change, yes.

Monaye: Because then now they’re going to teach. And this whole stigma of us not knowing for a huge population is lessened.

Sonia: Yes, exactly. So that really excites me, that keeps me doing this work. Knowing that I can make a difference in people’s lives, and women’s lives, and couples’ lives. But also, that I can make an impact on people I don’t even know and that’s why I love doing this podcast as well. Because there is people listening and then if I go to some sort of event and they’ll be like, “Are you Dr. Sonia?” And I’m like, “Aha.” They’re like, “Oh my goodness, you changed your marriage.” And I’m like, “Oh, okay.” And that’s the reason for doing all this work.

Monaye: I hear a podcast live event happening.

Sonia: Maybe one day we’ll all get together. Yeah, now, you mentioned that second thing, you’re right. When we were doing the Own Your Sexuality, I trusted you so much. You had gone through so many versions of the course again, and again, and again. But then you took over doing the – we had the Tuesday night sessions where I have you just focus on the different modules. And we have 12 modules. We had the module one would be your starting point.

And then module two is thinking about you as a sexual being because so often women don’t have permission to think of themselves as a sexual being. And then three would be libido, we would talk about libido. And you would handle each of those so that wherever you were in the course you could always go back to one of the sessions with you. And just review any specific modules as opposed to on the coaching calls, we would be coaching all about sex and whatever issues were coming up for the women in the relationships with themselves as they explored their sexuality.

But then they knew that on Tuesday evenings they could just go and talk to you and just go over the information in the modules because each module has a workbook. And so there’s a lot of information that’s in there too. What was it like for you flying solo and doing the modules on Tuesday evenings?

Monaye: You know how they say you have big shoes to fill? So that first one I was a little nervous, I was a little nervous. I was like, “I’m not Dr. Sonia, I’m me. I know you all know I’m here. Okay now you see me.” And so it was kind of the first time my face was on the screen in the program. And I felt it was very empowering to be able to support women in that way. And then they’ll come in just to ask questions. “Okay, I wasn’t sure about this piece.” And without necessarily getting the full coaching.

Just like how does this work? And is this the statistics still the same? Literally engaging in the information on an educational standpoint. I’m in class, it was like class to me. And it was really nice to see people were interested to know it, to not just read it but digest it and put it in a part of their life. And so that they can go back and tell someone else. And I can say that definitely happened a bunch of times where someone was like, “Okay, because I wanted to make sure I told my daughter the right thing or I’m talking to my partner.”

And really being able to say, “I know what I’m talking about.” And I think you might have a lot of people that feel very educated now just by going through that process of asking questions.

Sonia: Yeah, because we did topic after topic. So we did body image, we did pleasure and giving yourself permission for pleasure. We did a whole section on anatomy. We have a whole section in the course on anatomy because I wanted to make sure that everybody was at the same place with anatomy.

And where else do you get this, hopefully you get this information in sex ed but usually you don’t. They spend so much time on abstinence, but they don’t mention that there’s a vulva, and then there’s a vagina, and there’s a urethra and this is where your clitoris. Lord help us, nobody knows where the clitoris is.

Monaye: [Crosstalk].

Sonia: But you will if you go through my course because we spend some time.

Monaye: Absolutely, people know all about it. And not just the one part that everybody think they know about it, it’s whole.

Sonia: The whole thing, yeah.

Monaye: The whole thing.

Sonia: Yes, where you have some fun with.

Monaye: [Crosstalk], of course.

Sonia: And then there’s the sexual smorgasbord as well, and the toy section and then working on the pleasure plan where we bring it all together and figure out how they can create their own unique plan. So I mention all these topics because I want to know which one was your favorite one teaching about?

Monaye: My favorite one was the sexual smorgasbord. And the reason why is I feel it brings out the child, like a little girl in a lot of the people that are like, “Oh my gosh, can I do that?” It’s kind of like that in the toys. But the sexual smorgasbord is like, “So people do that? Is that something? Is that real? Well, how do they do that?”

Sonia: We should tell them more about the sexual smorgasbord. So it’s a list of different sexual activities all the way from holding hands, and kissing, and making out, all the way down to menage a trois, orgy and whatever. It’s a list of two pages and with all different activities that you could do. And it’s a list and then you say, yes, no, maybe, maybe not now, maybe never. You get to say.

Monaye: Right. And it’s meant to be done for your pleasure either with yourself or if you’re single, by yourself. So just really exploring, have I even thought about any of this? If some woman is just so new, and then some women it’s like, “Dancing in a chair, okay.” Now, I’m not going to do it but it’s an option.

Sonia: I could, I could do a lap dance, I could do a lap dance.

Monaye: Hopefully by myself.

Sonia: And we talk about the pole, if you get out, you could get a pole from Amazon.

Monaye: [Crosstalk], the [inaudible], all of it. And it’s all there and available. But I just think for me it’s this newness, wait, we don’t just have to missionary? And of course, we know that because even if we know a few other, doggy style, even if we know a couple other, people still get stuck in those main ones. And my pleasure isn’t just about penetration, that’s definitely something taught in the program. If that’s tickling of the feet, oh my gosh, a foot rub, rubbing someone’s hand, sitting and holding someone’s hand and reading a book.

It isn’t just about penetration, so it’s all of these things. And it just lights my world up to see people be – they’re so shocked at different ways that they can find pleasure that isn’t even related to penetration.

Sonia: Yeah. I love how people will be on the last page and be like, “No, no, no.” And so they go back to the first page and things that they were like, maybe. Now they’re like, “Well, that sounded a lot better.”

Monaye: [Crosstalk]. Now that we’re in the nitty gritty.

Sonia: Now we’re looking at the second page. Let me go back to the first page because the first pages sounded pretty good.

Monaye: Who can get [inaudible] in those things here because I don’t know about that last page.

Sonia: And I need to have a host OYSN group for partners because just I have so many of them thanking me and just saying that it’s just changed, it’s changed the conversation, it’s changed their lives. I had one guy that was like, “Dude, just pay the money.” He was like, “I don’t know what the hell they do in there but just pay the damn money.”

Monaye: Just pay her, take my credit card, take my credit card because whatever you’re doing it’s working.

Sonia: Yeah, exactly, yeah. So those are my favorite endorsements or people saying testimonials is when they’re just like, “I don’t know what they do there but I’m happy.”

Monaye: What gets my heart strings too is when some of the participants learn that they don’t like what they’ve been receiving. And they’re able to really go into themselves and choose that this isn’t how I want to be treated in life. And they have this empowerment to say, “Okay, I’m going to have a conversation about how I want to be treated and what is good for me.” And then they work that out with their partner.

Sonia: And then it gets so much better. And yes, my heart does go out when somebody says – it’s not my job to choose for somebody that what they can and cannot do. But it is my job to ask them and talk to them and see where their boundaries are.

And if they hadn’t realized that they were allowed to have boundaries to say, “If this is not something that is pleasurable and you’re not enjoying, and it doesn’t necessarily sound like there’s consent here, let’s talk this through. Where’s the safety here, or where’s the pleasure, where’s the enjoyment for you? If you need to have a hard conversation, we’re here to coach you and to help you figure out how to have that hard conversation.”

But yes, and so much, sometimes we might have a Diamond every once in a while, where the partner has purchased the course and said, “There’s something wrong with you, go here, go to this course.” And then they come to the course and I’m like, “There’s nothing wrong with you. You don’t like what’s happening. Well, let’s talk this through and figure this out.” Yeah. And so much of sex and sexuality is in the context of your relationship with yourself and also relationship with somebody else. And so if that relationship with somebody else is not working then we work on that too.

There’s so many different things that we spend a lot of time laughing, sometimes we are crying. But we get the work done and this is why I love doing this work and I love this group. And I love the names, when people first start, we give people the choice of coming up with their own anonymous name. And if not then Monaye gets the job of putting people’s names, anonymous names in there. And I’m never quite sure what the theme is going to be of that week.

And at the beginning most people come on and they don’t have a name that they want. And so, Monaye gives them a name. But by the end they’re coming on with all sorts of names. I’m like, “Okay.”

Monaye: [Crosstalk]. And I love it. I’m like, “Okay, you’ve been thinking this through. You have some ways you’ve been thinking about it.” And I’m like, “Okay. I am not mad. I’m going to write them down to use them for the next time because that was a good name.”

Sonia: I’m like, “Dang, that is a good name.”

Monaye: Yeah. They can get very – and I love when they get to that point where they want to do that. Or some come up on the beginning and do it too. But it’s like, “Okay. So you’ve been really thinking about it.” And I love the fact that they kind of embrace. It’s normally something that they feel about themselves too. Yeah, and I’m like, “I love it, it’s so cool.”

Sonia: Yeah. Like sexy legs, or pole dancer or something. My favorite thing is when they come and they tell me that they got off the call and they didn’t change their name on Zoom. And then they’re going off to another call. They’re like, “Ooh, one second.” They change it real quick.

Monaye: So it does keep it, oh my gosh, that’s hilarious.

Sonia: It does, it does keep it.

Monaye: I don’t think I ever did that. Well, I guess I don’t sign in others. But yeah, that’s hilarious. Oh my gosh, could you imagine going to a work thing and you’re pole dancer. They’re like, [crosstalk].

Sonia: Pole dancer extraordinaire, okay, you’ve got a whole new skillset I did not know.

Monaye: Okay. That’s funny. Oh my gosh, yeah, that gives me a good laugh.

Sonia: Alright, so let’s see. I wanted to check in with you. Yeah, so this next group of Own Your Sexuality Now that I’m going to be doing, it’s going to be the intimate group. And my plan is not to have too many people in it because I want to do a really deep dive in. And find out what the issues are and really get to know the people and spend time with them. So I’m really looking forward to the intimate group and that’s going to start in the middle of July. July, no, the middle of January. So that’s going to be [crosstalk].

Monaye: Why are you waiting so long?

Sonia: I know, have to wait a long time. It’s going to be so good. It’s too bad it won’t be for six months, no. It starts in January so I’m really looking forward to that. And I want to just thank you for all the support that you’ve given my Diamonds. And that’s why I want my podcast Diamonds to know you as well. And so I wanted to shift gears a little bit and talk about the work that you do when you’re not in the Own Your Sexuality Now or the You’re Empowered Sexuality Now program. So what is that you do?

Because you have your own private coaching program and then if I can have you all the time with me, I would do but you do actually do your own work so tell us about that.

Monaye: So I am, and like I said, a life and trauma coach. And I call myself, my Monica is the posttraumatic growth coach. So as much as there is PTSD and I will never negate that there’s also this phenomenon that I like to call it, as sometimes we can take things and challenges that happen in our life. And we use those to catapult us forward into spaces that we want to be. So I teach women who have experienced abuse, divorce and grief, I teach them to reconnect with their own selves and rebuild type of trust and safety that sometimes challenges can kind of make us feel a little different about.

So they can gain that confidence and that freedom to pursue their goals. And this is literally using that loss, and that pain, and that challenge and going forward, bounce that forward into something different. Another population that I get to work with is women that were previously incarcerated. And helping them navigate what does it look like that now they are sober living and they’re no longer incarcerated. How can they achieve their goals? What are things that they can do to bounce forward in their lives even knowing that they’ve been system impacted.

And there’s some challenges that they’re going to have that’s different than people that hasn’t been system impacted, and maybe some rules and laws that affect them. But we still can get you to where you want to be. And so I get the opportunity of working with them as well. And now I’m also working in the prison locally where I am and working with a population of what does it look like while you’re incarcerated to walk down so to speak, or go through this sentence? Let’s still see that there is a possibility of what you want on the outside.

And then as they come out then we work together as well. So it’s very work that gives me a lot of joy and it can be heavy and I just don’t allow it to stay heavy because I know and I can see them getting to the freedom that they desire.

Sonia: So good. Thank you. Thank you for the work that you do. Thank you. I’m so excited to hear that you’re now working in the prisons and you’re actually working with women before they even get out of the system to prepare and help them change their mindset while they’re going through this process. So that’s pretty amazing. And of course, it makes sense why you are such an asset in my groups is because you talk about the trust, and the loss, and the grief.

And those are things that women that are dealing with sexuality issues are also dealing with. And so the fact that you come and you understand about safety, and loss, and grief, and those type of things. And you can kind of shift it over into the area that I work. And it makes a lot of sense why we are so lucky to have you working with us as well in Own Your Sexuality Now. So if anybody wanted to reach out to you, how could they reach out to you? How could they get hold of you? What’s your website? Give us that information.

Monaye: Yeah. So I can be found online at www.coach C-O-A-CH, Monaye M-O-N-A-Y-E .com. And then I am Monaye Marcia on all the platforms. Well, I’m only on two because I can’t overdo it and do too many. So on Instagram and on Facebook I’m Monaye Marcia. And you can see me there with my work, how to get a hold of some of the things that I offer for free. And even if you experience any of the things that I have talked about with divorce or sexual trauma, I’m here to help and support in that way too.

Sonia: Thank you so much. Thank you for being on the podcast. Thank you for all the work that you do with me and for me. Thank God you help keep me organized. And when I’m talking, my stream of conscience and I’m in the middle of doing my Own Your Sexuality Now and you’re behind the scenes and you’re always typing and making sure that they have links and everything that they need. I never have to ask for anything, it just pops right up. I’m like, “How does she read my mind? How does she know what I need?”

But thank you for all the work that you do in my groups and all the work that you’re doing for your clients and the rest of the world in general. And yeah, I just want my Diamonds to know more about you and thank you for coming on the podcast.

Monaye: Thank you so much and thank you again for having me and allowing me the opportunity to just support you in a space that I think is so needed for women. And so to me it’s like that whole wraparound of women that I support and you support and saying let’s just be the best we want to be.

Sonia: Yeah. And if you want to work more with Coach Monaye, come into my next version of Own Your Sexuality Now, the intimate edition, you will be seeing because she coaches once a month with me in that program as well, alright.

Hey, Diamonds, it’s Dr. Sonia here. You know what? I love talking with you each week on my podcast but I want to get to know you better. I want to work directly with you. I actually want to coach you live and help you create that amazing sexual intimacy that you deserve. So once a year I open up enrolment for my Own Your Sexuality Now program which is my 90-day group coaching program. And enrolment opens this week and it closes as soon as I enroll the small group of committed women who want to change the intimacy in their life.

So as soon as the small group is full then enrolment is going to end. And this cohort of Own Your Sexuality Now, I also call it OYSN is a unique group because it is the intimate edition which has half the normal number of women in the group. We’re going to focus on doing the work in a small safe, supportive environment where you get to see that you’re not alone, that there are other women that are dealing with the same issues that you’re dealing with.

And it doesn’t matter your age or your background. We are all here and we are all in it together. You deserve that connection, satisfaction and pleasure of a healthy happy sex life with yourself and/or with another partner. So are you committed and are you ready to do the work? Would you like to create that blueprint, the pleasure plan for the next 40 years of amazing intimacy? If so then I’m looking for you to join this group. You’ve done all the things that you’re supposed to do. You’ve been responsible.

You’ve catered to everybody else’s needs but what about you, when do you get to focus on you? I say the time is now. And I say it doesn’t get any better than right now. Why wait another second? We are heading into the new year, what do you want your sexuality to be like in the new year? If you’re not feeling connected, if you’re not getting the satisfaction and if you’re up in your mind and not enjoying yourself then it’s time and I’m here to help. Let’s do something about it.

If you think about it, you could potentially have 30, 40, even 50 more years of intimacy ahead of you, what do you want it to look like? Let’s get real, let’s talk about what’s going on in your body, what’s happening with your libido, and we can kickstart this intimacy. Let’s talk about what it would take to tap into that amazing intimacy that you deserve. And I don’t care if you have a partner or not, you deserve amazing sexual intimacy in your life. If you’re a woman who wants to enjoy all aspects of her life, this program is for you. It finally gets to be your time.

So come join me as we discover how to get your groove back on and live your best life. I can’t wait to see you in OYSN. Yeah, OYSN, the limited edition. So click on the link in the show notes to find out more. And just so you know there are two scholarships available so I can’t wait to see you in Own Your Sexuality Now. We start OYSN, the intimate edition in the middle of January, will you be joining us? Click on the link below to find out more.

Talk to you later, Diamonds, Dr. Sonia out.

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Sonia Wright MD

Hi, I’m Dr. Sonia Wright and I’m YOUR SEX COACH! I’m on a mission to end the pain and isolation associated with sexual difficulties and to help women create satisfying sex lives.

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